Who's Who in EM Delafield
EMD's son Lionel Paul Dashwood b.13 Aug 1920 in
Singapore, educated at Rugby and d. while training for National Service
in the King's Own Shropshire Light Infantry in 1940, in an unwitnessed
gun-room accident. An open verdict was recorded and it seems
possible that he he felt unable to cope with the pressures of military
life. He was buried under the yew tree in Kentisbeare churchyard
which EMD had selected as her burial place. EMD chose "A clear
shining after the rain" as his and her epitaph.
EMD's Daughter Rosamund Dashwood, b. 15 Jan 1924, and was still alive
in 1988. She recalls Marguerite (mademoiselle) who "smelt
horribly powdery, and her black-clad person was made additionally
unattractive by her tendency to shriek" (Powell). She remembers
great disappointment when Leonard and Virgina Woolf came to stay at
Croyle, because she was devoted to animals and had been told that
Wolves were coming to stay.
By the end of 1929 she went to a boarding school where she was made
aware that she was the daughter of a distinguished mother. In 1934 she
went to Mickelham, then to a Swiss School and thence to Queen Maraget's
Scarborough. She left in 1941 and served in the WAAF. She
delightful 'sequel' to the Provincial Lady books called Provincial Daughter in 1959,
from which it appears that she marrried a doctor (Dr Truelove) and had
3 sons, and
also contributed to various magazines and the BBC. They emigrated
to Canada and in 2005 she was still alive.
Dr Margaret P Postuma, the narrator's best
friend, and as it happens
(although I only discovered this long after I had become hooked on The
Provincial Lady) my Great Great Aunt. née Slade but
married a Dutch doctor called Postuma
whom I believe she met on a cruise. She was always keen to be a doctor
family would not allow it (doctors were seen as tradesmen in those
days). However she was very determined, qualified as a Doctor in
Bristol in 1925 and eventually became a
Psychiatrist, studying in the US I think. Messalina of the Suburbs is
dedicated to her.
Click here for an attempt at sorting out
Slade/Beale family tree.
Mrs MR Beale née Slade, 1903-1994. Awarded OBE for
in running the Middlesex Land Army during WWII. Active in the Women's
and subsequently chairman of the Domestic Coal Consumers Council and
Women's Land Army Benevolent Fund. See obituaries in The Times,
Telegraph and Independent. She had some literary talent
a play she wrote in the 1930s won a national competition (Evening
Standard?) and was to
been produced in the West End, but this was stopped by Hitler. I
have now found the MS and it's really impressive. She also wrote a
novel called Salt in Yourselves
about a young woman in the 20s/30s who learns to fly, clearly modelled
on her sister Susan Slade, a pioneer aviatrix who was killed in the ATA
in 1944. This is rather brilliant and I hope we could get it
They lived at the time in Stanwell Moor which was on the
border. (Emmie did change some details) and they did not have a
marble bathroom. The house was "Green Doors" which I think may be still
Evelyn Stewart Lansdowne Beale 1901-1972. Read Physics at Cambridge and
then worked with William and Lawrence Bragg. Joined Anglo-Iranian Oil
(later BP) and then set up in partnership with Roddy Denman a
in Engineering Physics in the 1930s. See Obituary in The Times
Evelyn Martin Lansdowne Beale FRS 1928-1985.
One of the pioneers of mathematical optimisation and an eminent applied
statistician. Second President (after George Danzig) of the Mathematical Programming Society.
See obituaries in The Times (Jan 1986), Biographical Memoirs of
the Royal Society, Journal of
the Institute of Mathematics and its
Julian Robert Anthony Beale 1931-1978.
Talented physicist and inventor: worked for Philips Research and
published many papers and an early book on Microelectronics.
The Hon Mrs (Lottie) Adams, who had re-married after the death of her
first husband, the son of the 1st Baron Waleran, and was the chateline
of Bradfield Hall, near the villiage of Kentisbeare
in Devon. She was an heiress of the Coats mills, and the sister of Lord
Glentanar (George Coats of Paisley thread-making fame, who bought the
Glen Tanar estate and became 1st Baron Glen Tanar in 1916) whose
sister-in-law (?sister?)was Maud, Duchess of Wellington (nee The
Honourable Lilian Maud Glen Coats). Paul was indeed her agent!
Major Paul Dashwood OBE, whom EMD married on 17 July 1919. Son of Sir
George & Lady Mary Dashwood of Kirtlington Park, Oxford, he had
been a Civil Engineer before the '14-18 War. In Provincial
Daughter he appears visiting his
grandchildren. He was travelling back in April 1919 with EMD's mother
and stepfather, helped them disembark and met EMD. They were married in
July at St James's Spanish Place
Lady Rhonnda - 'Rose's Viscountess'
Maragret Haig Thomas was 7 years older than EMD and married at 25, but
in lieu of a family developed strong business, professional and
interests. Her father turned her into a business colleague and by the
he was created Viscount Rhondda with the remainder to his daughter (so
she was a Viscountess in her own right) they had travelled the world on
business together, including being sunk on the Lusitania. In
she became founder and Editor of Time and Tide (which
proverbially "wait for no man"). This began as a
strongly Liberal periodical with a policy of supporting feminist
but drifted rightwards over the years. However she employed EMD and
Betjeman (and sacked him, see his poem
Caprice). She recalls how EMD sent the first installment of Diary to her for Time and Tide "sending it with a note to say 'I don't
think much of this. If you agree, put it into the W.P.B.' I did
not agree." This is in the delicous preface to the Time and Tide Anthology of 1956
which contains inter alia a
review by Charles Williams (in the persona of Snigsozzle) of The Screwtape Letters and an
article on Taste by CS Lewis.
FWIW the other female celebrated in this anthology, who could perhaps
be in the Diary or sequels,
- Elspeth Huxley
Wedgwood - later Dame Veronica Wedgwood OM
- Virginia Woolf
- Vita Sackville-West
Bosanquet (who was seretary to Henry James from 1908-1916, and
became a Director of Time and Tide)
Hamilton ("famous in the 20s for her play, How to get Married... retained a
high reputation in a small circle... but she had too deep and clear a
vision and often too painful a one to remain popular with the big
crowd"). I rather suspect she is "Emma Hay"
- and other people published who could be relevant include:
- D. H.
Lawrence, Vera Brittain,
Haldane, Storm Jameson,
Robins, Mary Hamilton,
Wilkinson, Ethel Smyth,
George Bernard Shaw, Ernst Toller,
Graves and George Orwell.
Count Henry (EMD's Father)
De la P forebears include Roger van de Weyden (1400-64), painter who
1st (Pierre Francois) Marquis & Count cr Louis XVI
2nd (Pierre-Marie) fled from Revolution in 1791 and m.
Coltée Ducarel, granddaughter of the Maharajah of Purnea. 3rd
Henri-Pierre ed Eton d 1840. His 5th child Henry Philip
b. posthumously, and m. Elizabeth Lydia Rosabelle Bonham (b Naples
in Kensington in 1887. He died of a heart attack on 12 Oct 1908.
Yoé (EMD's Sister)
Bettine Marie Yolande (Known as Yoé) b. 1892. She followed
"a rather sporadic medical career". EMD reported in 1936 that she
was married to an Austrian gentleman in Vienna and that her name was
Mme Friedl. But in fact she was (like Aunt Clo in Humbug)
disappointed and deserted by a weakling who allows his (real) wife to
him from an entanglement.
Mrs Henry de la Pasture (EMD's Mother)
Mrs Henry de la P wrote The Unlucky Family, a well known comic
for the young, as well as many 'serious' novels. She published her 1st
book in 1894 and for the next 20 years was a successful novelist and
(greatest success, Peter's Mother which ran for 6 months &
performed at Sandringham on Dec 1906 by command of Edward VII) and a
of WS Gilbert. In 1910 she married Sir Hugh Clifford KCMG a colonial
in the Malay States, a friend of Joseph Conrad (who dedicated Chance
to him) and an acquaintance of Noel Coward (who got the idea of Mad
Dogs & Englishmen from observing his increasingly insane
Cicely McCall (Caroline Concannon)
Great friend of EMDs. She was 'the first female psychitaric
social worker in Britain', was awarded an MBE, and wrote They Always Come Back about female
prisoners with a foreword by EMD. She also wrote about Women's Institutes (1943) and some
memoirs called 'Looking back from the
Nineties' (ISBN 0947893326) which I would love to
obtain! She contested Bury St Edmonds for Labour in 1945 but
lost. She turned 100 on 16th July 2000 and wrote a short memoir
about her youth in Walmer.
Cicely Hamilton (Emma Hay)
Another great friend, and fellow-director of Time and Tide. A pretty
successful playwright and novelist, and very active feminist. An
interesting life, I've had a go at a web-page here.
Phillis Rushbrooke - a childhood friend of EMDs who was a bridesmaid at
their wedding. I can find nothing about her (other than this fact
in Powell). Powell says two of EMD's novels were dedicated to her, and
that she may have been good looking.
"Miss L" in Virgina Woolf's Diary, became a major force in EMD's life,
as chauffeur, secretary, friend. Not much liked by the chidren.
Mentioned in Goes Further June 9th.
Other decodings or attempted:
- The Literary Conference she
attends in Brussels in 1931, but
apparently wasn't PEN International 'cos the PEN conference in Brussels
took place in
1927 and in 1932 it was in Budapest. - I'm
trying to find out who was there to identify some of the other people.
- Jahsper - obnoxious
writer friend of neighbour
- The famous female novelist Carina/Charlotte
Volley with the adoring female companion Miss Postman in
'Goes Further' April 22nd - seems
to live about 40 miles from country house.
- Felicity Fairmead
- Pamela Pringle - is she the same person that Anthony Powell used
for his much-romanced Pamela I wonder? I also suspect that she
may be Eileen Hunter (Mrs
Ward Jackson) - see eg
here. She has a complicated love life, is very beautiful,
supposedly lives in Sloane Street in a very modern flat, and on April 19th in Goes Further, an
Illustrated Paper 'reaches the hands
of Vicky, who says Oh, look at that picture of a naked lady, and
screams with laughter. Ascertain later that this description, not
wholly libellous, applies to full-page photograph of Pamela Pringle -
wearing enormous feathered headdress, jewelled breast-plates, one
garter, and a short guaze skirt - representing Chasitity at recent
Pageant of Virtue through the Ages organised by Society Women for the
benefit of Zenana Mission'
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